Stand by your man ?

According to China Press, Wanita MCA President Dato Dr Ng Yen Yen, advised married women to put up make-up, sprayed on the perfume, and put on sexy transparent nighties in the bedroom. She implied it get very bored for the the husband to see the wife get into and get out from the bed day in and day out. She advised married women indulge in creating some "fresh" excitements to break the monotony of their daily life.

It sounds like Wanita MCA is pitching the notion that keeping beautiful and sexy is the viable option to maintain a marriage. Maybe Wanita MCA should also venture into setting up boutiques to sell sexy lingeries, beauty saloon, and cosmetic surgery centres.

She also said Wanita MCA is opposed to the government allowing Chinese women to work as domestic helper in Malaysia. She reasoned that, it is not because Wanita MCA has no confident in Malaysian men's loyalty to their spouse, but just a precautionary move to deny men the opportunities to stray.

My dear honourable dato, opined whatever you want. I hope I am not being offensive or insensitive to state my opinion here. Maintaining a marriage is not as easy as some women's narrow minded thoughts of dousing themselves with cosmetic, perfume, and sexy nighties. A married man is not a sexually naive animal attracted by open legged creatures in transparent nighties. Sometimes, he just has a simple needs of wanting a good night sleep, and his woman to be less grumpy, less suspicious, and to have mutual trust.

Regarding the employment of Chinese women as domestic helper in Malaysia, as I said before in my previous post, if you have no faith in your husband, and if your marriage failed, please don't blame others. It is inappropriate to imply derogatory insinuations against Chinese women. I do wonder why Wanita MCA has no problem with women from Indonesia and Myanmar working as domestic helper in Malaysia. Personally, I think it is indecent and immoral to practise discriminations simply because of prejudices.

It is a crime to be raped…

“Just because this woman was forcibly overpowered and raped by six men does not relieve her of responsibility for her failure to maintain her obligation of chastity…..” “Ninety lashes would be sufficient for a simple case of immorality, but this woman allowed not one, but six men to have sex with her. An offense of such gross magnitude cries out for the severest of sanctions allowed by law.”

A brutally gang raped victim was initially ordered by Saudi Arabia court to undergo 90 lashes. She appealed the sentence, but instead, a tougher sentence was handed down to her with 200 lashes and six months jail. Her lawyer who defended her also had his law license revoked.

Spontaneously, I felt outraged and astonished to read this sad news. My initial reaction is, it is not right to punish the victim. What kind of camel justice is this ! No insensitivity intended, but my personal perception is, that country look so uncivilized and backward, it makes Haiti looks very modern and progressive. But I guess, different cultures have different perceptions and imlementations of "words of God". We should not be shocked by how justice is being interpreted and imposed by others. After all, most of us do have incompatible values of morality and decency. What is morally righteous in one country maybe outrageous to another ! We need to respect that country’s way of life, culture, religion, values, morality, and decency. As long as they keep their “righteousness” within the physical border of their country and practiced it on their own people, it is their rights. As much as we want to move forward into the future in civilized manner respectful of human rights and fairness, we also seriously need to respect the rights of cultures that glorified times past. On this score, it would be conducive to my mental health that I indulge in selective amnesia and phony righteousness in order not to be perceived as insensitive to other people cultures and religions.

Some cultures glorify death, and some cultures glorify life. Some cultures see death as a mean to enter spiritual eternity of paradize. Some cultures over celebrated life to derive hedonistic and sadistic pleasures of earthly paradize. Between divinity and secularism, there are limitless combinations and permutations of posibilities. Who are we to judge what is right and wrong ? We are basically a product of our own biased lamentatations. We just have to awake to this universal conciousness and adapt to this diverse perceptional habitats.

Other people can believe in whatever they want and adopt whatever lifestyle appropriate to them. As long as they don’t impose and intrude into our path, it is best we mind our own business and be at peace with ourselves irregardless of what other people’s dispositions.

Hmmmmm….. Am i walking the middle path ? What the F@ck !

Of beers and stupidities

Recently, I decided to have a quick dinner at a nearby open air coffee shop. Not long after I took a table and placed my order, a group of Chinese men and women came in and occupied two tables. There are probably 6 men with age ranging from 45 to 55, and 4 women with thick make-up of cheap cosmetic and irritating smell of cheap perfume. These women look like cheap prostitute pick up from somewhere to join the men for some cheap beer drinking session.

To cut the story short, these men and women looked like a group of old buddies trying to have a casual gathering, they ordered beers and started their rowdy drinking and cheering each other on. After a few glasses, some of them started to challenge each other to see who can drink more, but their annoying laughters still lingering around. Suddenly, for no apparent reason, there are breaking noises of glasses and bottles, the men start challenging each other to fist fights and throwing verbal abuses at each others, a violent fist fights was started. The rest of the customers in the coffee shop quickly abandoned their tables and stay away at a safe distant. The coffee shop owner and workers moved in to separate these drunkards, but the shouting of verbal profanity at each other continued.

These ugly incidences resulting from excessive alcohol consumptions are not unusual in Malaysia. There has been too many similar incident of pub brawls and fist fights resulting in unneccesary deaths and injuries. People just don't seemed to have the ability to learn from these painful and uncivilized behaviors. A bunch of inconsiderate adults trying their level best to established acceptance of their abnormal social behaviors in public ! I shake my head...

Sometimes, I guess we have to accept the fact that, there are always life's rejects in our society. With too much ego, stupid pride, and their unwillingness to face real life problems, these rejects probably have no success in life to boast to their friends. They actually think that they can gain respect and recognition by showing others how much their pot bellies can take the alcohol. I guess, they are basically a bunch of primates in perpetual self denial of their inferiority complex, alcohol seemed to be the only mean to acquire the misplaced confidence to glorify their ability for excessive consumption of cheap alcohols.

Sorry for my insensitivity to drunkards. But, the fact of the matter is, these drunkards are basically a bunch of parasites incapable of taking responsibility and unwilling to face problems in their life. If they can waste so much money getting themselves intoxicated, why can't they use the money to buy foods home ? If they can spend so much time whoring themselves with intoxicated people, why can't they spend the time with their family members to improve the quality of their relationships ?

Of Loan Sharking and social responsibilities.....

“ Having financial difficulty ? Want to take loan but not qualified ?
Don't worry,
we are also not qualified ! Call 011 – 11581169
( Sunshines Credits Co.).
Fast processing of loan application and disbursement.... “

I would not be surprised to see advertisements by loan sharks similar to the above. As it is, my mailboxes are filled with name cards from loan sharks. The entrance of my office are defaced by the loan sharks' photograph size stickers. Occasionally, the loan sharks even placed pamphlets on the windscreen of my car. Over the past few years, there have been a very visible increase of loan sharks in town. I do wonder where did all these loan sharks came from and why are they so flush with money ?

A Loan Shark is a person or body who lends money at exorbitant interest rates, the loan, usually unsecured, is often backed by blackmail or threats. The loan shark usually target the credit facility to those who are not able to obtain loan from mainstream lenders. In Malaysia, the local Chinese nicknamed loan shark as “Tai Yee Loong (大耳窿)”. The local Malay having problem pronouncing “Tai Yee”, so they called the loan shark “Ah Loong (阿窿)”. I don't know what is the terminology in Tamil, could it be R'ler Ombedeh ?

The interest rate for loan secured from a loan shark can be as high as more than 100%. When a borrower failed to repay the loan, the loan sharks are usually very creative in convincing the borrower to pay up. Some of the tactic include splashing red paints or graffiti at the house of borrower, harassing and intimidating family members of borrower, physical violences, etc. So, for your own sake and physical well being, if possible, don't take any loan from any illegal money lenders. If you have some financial difficulties, please pray hard to God, because it is God's responsibility to take care of you. If your God failed to deliver his responsibilities, please convert to other religions. Yep, it is safer to blame your financial difficulties on God than taking the loan and be sorry later.

Well, I guess the loan shark is also doing his part of social responsibilities by offering loans to all those people who are not qualified to obtain loans from our reputable financial institutions. Let us accept the reality that, banks and finance companies are only interested to offer loans to “well off” people. For poor people, at least the loan sharks offer them a fighting chance to breakout from the financial difficulties. So until such times when all the banks and finance companies are willing to offer unsecured loans to poor people, perhaps, in the mean times, our caring government should look into the possibilities of licensing all illegal money lenders and made them legal. By licensing and legalizing the illegal money lenders, more monies will be available to the poor, and a standard code of conducts can be implemented to ensure the borrowers are not abused.

It would be interesting to see all the loan sharks shed their perceived hooligan image, and gang up to put up a public relation campaign to improve their image. May be they should start gotong royong to clean up clogged drains, donating to welfare homes, help the housing estates to fight petty crimes, etc. Or perhaps, a public campaign of “ I Love my Loan Shark$ “ ? And a campaign of “When you run out of money and desperate, where do you go ? LOOOOAN SHAAAAAARRRRRKKKKKKKKS”.

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